DON'T WAIT! REPORT "BULLYING" TODAY!
How many more schools shooting our country has to go through to understand that the problem starts with some kids "bullying" other kids pushing them to the edge and sometimes making them a wrong and terrible decision: a need for revange. These incidents are nothing but the fatal combination of abuse, lack of communication, indifference and easy access to weapons! The "bullying" that you and me went through, while we were going to school is history now. Some "today' bullies" not only humiliate classmates to the tears and make them hate to go to school, they also also use threats to force the other kids to give them money and other items like food and goodies. They push them in the halls and wait for them in the bathrooms to beat them up. They literally make their lives a living h@#&*! All these actions, if placed in the adult world, would be punishable crimes from theft to battery and sometimes even rape. Why do we tolerate this behavior? Why don't do enough when a kid complains of being "bullied"? And as parents why we rather close our eyes and just say: "It's OK honey, we all went through the same thing when we were kids". Wrong! If your child is telling you this, it is because he (she) has already exhausted any other ways to stop the "bullying" and he (she) is scared, feels lonely and desperate. And if it is your child the one doing the "bullying" you have the task, as a parent, to talk to your kid and stop him or her from being abusive and cruel. Knowing and not correcting the problem is just like raising futures inmates? (As a matter of fact inmates "bully" other inmates while incarcerated too). When exactly is enough of being bullied? Why kids are killing kids while adults just ignore the signs of this abuse that 20 years ago was absolutely intolerable? We can blame the movies and the video games and continue to do nothing about it, or keep on thinking: "This couldn't happen here!" Until the day it does happen here and to your own kids! If you know your son or daughter is being one more victim of bullies in school, stand up for him (her)! Go talk to the principal and even complain to the school board! And if it is necessary talk the parents of these kids before you go to the authorities. Most of the times school authorities will make the necessary changes to protect your child, but you need to request it! "Bullies" do not push around the other kids in front of teachers, and if your kid is afraid and doesn't tell the teacher, you need to let them know! Some kids won't even tell their parents that they are being "bullied" because they think the problem will just get worst. As a parent you need to know when something is wrong so you can first "listen" and then help them, because if you are not on their side who will be? Here are some signs: - They don't want to go to school, they skip classes, are always in a bad mood and asilate themselves from the rest of the family. - They talk all the time about punching, kicking, and display attraction for violence through video games, movies etc. - Eats too much or looses too much weight. - Spends too much time in his (her) room and always refuses to spend time with the family. - Most of the kids will tell their parents what is going on or the "bully" name will pop in a conversation PLEASE! Listen to your child because even if it is not a straight call for help, the fact that he (she) even mention it to you means they do need your help to stop this situation. Maybe if we all join forces something will be done about these "school crimes" that are being overlooked and trigger even more violence among our children. Let's stop this epidemic now that we can still do it. Don't wait until your kid is cuffed in the back of a patrol crying for mom and dad! Because then... is just too late! Related: ENDENFIN's blog | login or register to post comments | printer friendly version | Tags: Family | kids | Safety
Submitted by Claude91098 on Thu, 10/18/2007 - 7:55pm.
jjones, you sure you didn't go to school with me? (LOL) I'm an old guy so I doubt it!
When I was in grammar school, (1-5), I was a large kid for my age, and somewhat chubby too. I stood a head+ taller than all my peers. For some reason I never could fathom, the little guys, (I call them Banty Roosters now), used to pick fights with ME! They would hit me four or five times before I knew what the heck was going on. (I wasn't much of a fighter either.) I got to the point where I'd just grab a hold of them, take a few punches, and then lay a haymaker up side their heads. Fight over! Well...guess what? "I" was labeled a "bully" for protecting myself! For some reason the smaller guys felt they had to "prove something" by kicking the big kid's butt! I always looked like I lost the fight and they didn't have a mark on them. But THEY knew that if I got my hands on them...LIGHTS OUT!
When I was in middle school, 6-8 grades, I had lost a lot of weight, I lifted out. I was quite "fit". Same deal...incredibly the small Banty Roosters always sought me out and then picked a fight. I was 6' tall at age 13, size 13EEE shoes and a six pack! I ALWAYS allowed them to throw the first punch. Same tactic..I get hit a half dozen times, I connect one punch...fight over. Of course I was STILL considered a "bully" because of my SIZE and strength. After I quit school at 15, I was upgraded, (if you can call it that), to a "hoodlum". (Because I hung out with a tough crowd, but I wasn't really one of them. When you have no friends, you go with what you can get.) That rep is one of the primary reasons I never wanted to live in my hometown. I joined the Navy at 18, (1969), and never went back to live there permanently. Those "scars" from my childhood lasted a long, long time.
Not everyone labeled a "bully" is a bully. But true bullies can be detered quite well by just ignoring them. WALK AWAY! No matter what is said. If the bully will not LET you walk away, fight back. You may lose, but fight EVERYTIME, and they will move on to easier victims to intimidate.
The school rules nowadays seems to be blanket: fight? You BOTH get suspended or exspelled. THAT is just flat out WRONG! The ones that START it should be the ones to get kicked out of school, NOT the victims that fight back! Submitted by jjones474 on Fri, 10/19/2007 - 8:02pm.
I hear you, and truly understand! Everything is way too p.c. these days. Maybe if a few more bullies got the butts kicked, it would solve the problem, instead of letting them know they can hide within the system. Every generation is more weakened and watered down than the one before it. I say often I would not have lasted a week in the 50's. C'est le' vie. |
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Where I went to school, bully's DID beat you up and wait for you and threaten you! The only way (in my experience) to solve the problem is to fight back! I don't care what school officials say, what disciplinary actions they may threaten, what child rearing books you've read. Chances are the bullies ain't gotten around to reading them. Fight back! Hard! Disable the person, but ONLY after they have physically touched you (your child). That way you have a self defense claim. Quick end to any fight is to deliver a swift kick inward to the knee cap. Collapse the leg. The pain will be excruciating and the bully will not be able to stand. Fight over. Kicks to the groin seldom work. Almost always they are deflected enough to not hurt. It only works in the movies. Punches to the throat and nose are also very effective, but head punches can be expected, and if the child is not trained to do it, they may miss. It is very easy to deliver a kick to the knee cap. If the child can grab ahold of an ear and twist, this will bring a bully to their knees. Keep ahold until help comes. Granted, this may all seems harsh and violent, but how is it different from what the bully is doing? Hey, if you belive in peace and Ghandi, by all means let your kid get creamed to a pulp. Back in my day, we fought back and we solved our problems that the school couldn't. It will make your kids better people, better able to stand up for themselves in the future. Enroll them in a martial arts class, teach them a fighting style. It builds self esteem. Bullies ALWAYS find the weak kids with low self-esteem, because they know they won't fight back. In my experience, when people fought back against a bully, even if they lost the fight, they stopped getting picked on, because it wasn't easy for the bully anymore. I know this may be an unpopular train of thought, but for those of you that have never been in this situation, trust me, it is the way to go.